I know it’s quite difficult to be in this situation. Until now, I still can’t believe that I was able to overcome the loneliness and hurt I felt after I was left hanging by the person I envisioned my future with. I still believe everything has a reason and God allowed such things to happen for us to realize our worth, that there is more to life than whining and looking back at the past and there are greater things bound to happen after the Big Storm.
I know there is no easy way to heal a broken heart, but these helped me get through the darker days and I hope it helps you too in healing, letting go and moving on.
1. Cry ‘til you can’t cry no more. – I cried my heart out. I cried every single day after the break up until I fall asleep..and it felt so good to release your hurt and pain through your tears.. It will pass.. titigil ka din kasi wala ka ng iluluha pa!
I know there is no easy way to heal a broken heart, but these helped me get through the darker days and I hope it helps you too in healing, letting go and moving on.
1. Cry ‘til you can’t cry no more. – I cried my heart out. I cried every single day after the break up until I fall asleep..and it felt so good to release your hurt and pain through your tears.. It will pass.. titigil ka din kasi wala ka ng iluluha pa!
2. Read the Bible – only God can understand the hurt, talk to Him! You will find comfort in reading the Bible because somehow you will find the answers to your heart’s questions.
3. Call your Best Friend – in my case, the first thing I did was to text my Best Friend, she called me up because she knew right away that there was something wrong.
4. Email what happened to your other BFFs abroad – it was nice to share what happened to the people you know who cares for you the most. You will feel a whole lot better reading their reactions. Glad that I have great friends!!
5. Eat your heart out – My BFF asked me if they could join their family lunch out the day after the breakup and I obliged. It was a heartwarming treat from her mom.. I went home stuffed!
6. Drink like there’s no tomorrow – When my boss learned about the breakup, he told immediately asked me if I want to go out.. I said yes (of course!) He invited the whole team for a drinking spree (and videoke) to celebrate my singlehood. We went home drunk and happy!
7. Go to the Gym – stress buster.. especially if you have a cute trainer helping you out..hahah!
8. Watch your favorite Romantic Movies – I never got tired of watching “The Notebook”, “One more Chance” “If only” etc. I am a sucker for Romantic Films and watching them over and over again makes you want to cry even more but still hopeful that Love still exists.
9. Put all the pictures of your ex, cards and everything that will remind you of him in a box - I kept mine in a safe place where I won’t be able to reach or open it easily.. I never threw anything from my ex’s.. They have been special and I want to keep it that way. No regrets. :)
10. Delete your ex’s mobile number, messages, pictures and anniversaries in your cellphone – good thing I’m not good in numbers, so it was easy for me not to text him or call him coz when I deleted all his numbers I know it would be impossible for me to remember all of them.
11. Clean your closet- I found a lot of old clothes I haven’t been using in years, a lot of keepsakes which are not usable anymore (movie tickets, plastic, boxes, empty perfume bottles- GARBAGE!) so I threw them all away.
12. Cook your favorite dishes and let your love ones enjoy it. – Cooking is my therapy. I love cooking for the people I love and I love it even more when they liked what I cooked for them.
13. Go to a Salon - have your mani/pedi, foot spa and hair fixed. You should still stay beautiful even you’re not feeling well.
14. Get a weekday off and work on weekends- I was used to having weekends off at work but to prevent me on wallowing and reminiscing our weekend dates I chose not to bid out and get a weekday off instead. It works..
15. Write an everyday journal – you can write anything.. your feelings, angst, pain.. whatever.. it will amaze you as to how you’ve progressed each day.. and you will realize how strong you have become.
16. Get a Massage or SPA – this will make you feel really good. (kahit sa bulag pinatulan ko!!)
17. Go Shopping or Window Shop - Treat yourself with that pair of shoes you’ve been dying to have or get the bag you’ve been eyeing for.. It doesn’t hurt to splurge on yourself once in awhile. You deserve it!
18. Play with your pet often - Gifter, our dog, helped me a lot in making things easier for me on days I can’t even put a smile on my face.. Unfortunately, he got into an accident and died which made my healing process a little longer. We are seriously thinking of getting a new dog but we know that Gifter will never be replaced in our hearts.
19. Facebook all the way- Who doesn’t enjoy facebook? There are lot of things you can do on facebook (chat with friends, update yourself with the latest chismis, finding out who will react on your status) and it’s fun. And if you are a gamer, there’s a lot of games to choose from to get addicted to.. I just don’t like the flooding of my friends’ game status though.
20. Read self-help book/ blogs – A lot of friends gave me self help books and it really helped. It gives you a brighter perspective from a different point of view and you will find out that a lot of people have experienced or are experiencing what you are going through… you are not alone!
21. Trying Photography – Friends have been trying to help me out improve my shots, borrowing their cameras whenever and tinkering on how to use them.. it’s therapy. And I know I have to buy my own soon.. konti nalang!
22. Get hooked on Sports - Me? Sports?? I never thought I would be addicted to Badminton. Now, I don’t think my week will be complete without me playing it!! I just love it and I’m loving my new racket!!!
23. Go to a beach or travel as often as you can – I love the beach and the sun… and everything about it! I don’t mind the long travel because once you are there it means only 2 things: Rest and Relaxation.
24. Go to a place where you have never been before –Learning how to go there all by yourself, exploring what the place can offer and creating new memories is such a wonderful experience.
25. Start a new blog – I deleted the old one and started a new one.. New Life.. New ME!
26. Enhance yourself – I had my eyes corrected last March at the American Eye Clinic. It was one of my biggest decision to push through with the operation and I’m glad I did it. Thank God for this once in a lifetime opportunity and thanks to Dra. Badj Bolinao too.. (she was heaven sent!)
27. Reunite with Old Friends - Thank God for Facebook! I have constant communication with my High School Batchmates, Officemates and past Acquaintances. Now, its easy to plan an instant reunion…
28. Meet up with your Single Friends as often as you can – I’m glad that I still get to hangout with my 2 single BFFs every now and then..
29. Listen to another breakup story – it made me feel better that I’m not the only one experiencing it. Help each other move on and let go.
30. Watch your favorite Band play or a Concert with your best buds – then dance till you drop.
31. Open up to your friend’s husbands or boyfriends - I am blessed to have friends whose husbands/boyfriends are also concerned about me. It was insightful to get a man’s point of view especially they know how men think.. and it gave me a lot of things to ponder on and some realizations of the previous relationship
32. Share your heartache with a total stranger - I met someone online who is also in the same situation and we exchanged stories of our heartaches.. it was easier to tell him because I know he won’t judge me.. misery loves company! we became friends but we haven’t seen each other yet.. I hope to meet him soon!
33. Surround yourself with kids – It’s good that I have friends who have cute children and intelligent pamangkins.. You will just be amazed as to how smart they are now..just the sight of them makes you go aaaah… They are so lovable and adorable.. can’t wait to have my own pamangkin too!!!
34. Attend ALL birthdays parties, company activities and reunions as much as you can
35. Enjoy your new found Singlehood – sometimes its fun to do things alone. Do things you don’t normally do alone.. like watching movie, eating in a restaurant..you might look silly but it’s the start of loving yourself again.
Breaking up is one of the most painful thing you have to experience in love. But you have to let go of the things that can no longer be fixed. If you force to try to put them back, things will only get worse..
“Holding on is being brave but sometimes moving on makes you even tougher”. Remember that God has better plans for each one of us, all we have to do is be obedient and wait for his perfect timing.
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